The loss of a loved one can be both trying and chaotic. As you go through the funeral planning process, it is important to understand there are a variety of funeral service options available.
There are multicultural funeral options, as well as special services for police, fire or veterans. Green funerals are also rising in popularity, for those who are environmentally conscious.
A funeral home often provides more than the standard funeral. Often they can help a family with their final wishes in a variety of ways.
Below are some of the popular options for funeral services:
Standard Funeral Service – These are often conducted at a church, temple, funeral home, or sometimes in a private residence. They often involve scripture, hymns or eulogies.
Memorial Service – A memorial service is a way to honor your loved one without the body present. A personalized service can often be held inside a chapel or funeral home.
Visitation – A visitation allows family and friends to say goodbye to the deceased, through a viewing. Visitations often contain personal keepsakes such as photographs, videos, prized possessions or music.
Graveside service – These often accompany a standard funeral, with some final words being spoken at the final resting spot.
Immediate burial – This is an option for families who wish to buried their loved one with no public services.
Funeral homes often help the family complete final wishes in a variety of ways. For example, some funeral homes provide the coordination of services, if the family lives out of town. They could also include the transportation and coordination of the donation of a body to science.
There are always ways to personalize a funeral service to the tastes of a loved one. For more information on the types of funerals available and services offered, visit the Friedrich Jones funeral services page, or call Naperville at (630) 355-0213, or Plainfield at (815) 436-9221.
The loss of a loved one can be difficult for an adult but often markedly more difficult for a child who likely has not experienced loss and possibly hasn’t thought about what death means.
Previous philosophies may have included trying to keep a child’s mind off of their grief or just carrying on, but newer research into how children process grief has resulted in expert input and advice on how to approach the sensitive subject.
The Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children & Families, suggests a good place to start is by honestly answering any questions the child asks, even if they are difficult. Answering with language on the child’s level is important, not with a clinical or adult response. The American Hospice Association says it also is important to use correct language, saying that the person died not “gone away” or other phrases that might make the child think the person could be returning.
Another suggestion from the Dougy Center is to give children choices in how they want to say goodbye to the person who died. This might involve the child having a chance to pick out the casket or flowers for the service or favorite photos of the loved one.
Walking a child through what to expect at a funeral or other service is also helpful, according to the American Hospice Association. Funeral Directors can explain the process to an adult so they can properly prepare a child for what to expect.
The family and staff at Friedrich-Jones and Overman-Jones funeral homes in Naperville and Plainfield can also help provide local resources on helping children grieve or suggest an age-appropriate book on the subject of grief that can be read with the child.
The National Alliance for Grieving Children says activities that involve the child in processing their grief can be helpful, including creating a journal or scrapbook or even writing themselves a letter as if it came from the person who has died.
Friedrich-Jones and Overman-Jones funeral homes also offer a variety of online resources children might find comforting, from posting a heart message to lighting a luminary in honor of someone who has died.
For more information on these resources, visit friedrichjones.com. Or to talk with a Funeral Director experienced in helping families navigate grief, contact Friedrich-Jones Naperville at 630-355-0213 or Plainfield at 815-436-9221.